Most things are not meant to be. It just takes a while to figure out. Ouch, it hurts but that's the way life is. Either you take it or leave it. Bla..bla..bla...
I guess for the time being, I chose being single as the best option available for the moment. Spent last weekend at the old hometown for Chinese New Year as customary, and this time there's talk in our small town. Can't keep tongues from wagging unfortunately. A cousin of mine just got engaged a couple of weeks back and most of us were kept in the dark about it. There were no invitations or phone calls saying that they are getting engaged and to attend a celebration dinner or something like that. The weird thing is - there was no reason for her to hide her engagement.
When her grandma found out whom she's getting engaged to, her grandma was kinda disappointed with her for choosing an unsuitable person because he's not working yet and also there's his health problems. And because my cousin is "The Golden Child's" daughter, my grandma was so in a hurry to meet her "husband to be". This all happened when we went visiting a cousin's house during the Chinese New Year celebration. No one actually wanted to follow grandma to meet our cousin's husband because we felt that the poor fellow might not feel comfortable being visited by a throng of strangers. The guys sent her there and they got stranded there while waiting for our car to pick up grandma. It was while we were on the way to my cousin's in law's place that the ladies start to wag their tongue.
First of all, I heard from my uncle that he actually talked to my cousin in the kitchen before leaving for our hometown that he thinks she's still too young to get married. Then, my grandma and aunt spilled forth their thoughts by saying she could have chosen someone better than that guy because he has many ailments and also because he's not from a well-off family. To top it off, two cousins of mine were saying the same thing that she would regret marrying the guy because she's used to living in comfort.
The more I listen to them talking about my cousin, I got more and more agitated. It annoyed me so much - getting married because you love the guy/girl is not enough to placate the gossip mongers in town. It must be a perfect match financially at the same time. So they're just about to start a new life together. And life's not necessarily short. Everyone has a chance to build themselves up the social ladder given time and opportunity.
I hate these materialistic thinking that people from the old countryside has. Everything seems to be revolved around money. If someone marries for money to a guy who's let's say~~ more than 10 years older than the girl, she will be dubbed as a gold digger. Someone who wants to be rich instantly. I hated the fact that they have a certain expectation for their son-in-law. Do they really think that being rich brings happiness? Don't they realize that for everything that has it's ups, there's definitely an aspect where it lacked? Nothing's perfect...
I'm glad I chose not to get married. I choose to be single because there's no such thing as a perfect guy for me. Yes, I did have a mental picture of what kinda person I'm looking for but it's just a waste of my time if the person is not approved by "the counsel of wagging tongues". I'm not competing against my cousins on who can find the best looking and financially sufficient spouse. Even now, with all my cousins who have boyfriends and girlfriends - they're being judged and scrutinized by "the counsel" till they're feuding amongst themselves. POINTLESS!!!
I guess for the time being, I chose being single as the best option available for the moment. Spent last weekend at the old hometown for Chinese New Year as customary, and this time there's talk in our small town. Can't keep tongues from wagging unfortunately. A cousin of mine just got engaged a couple of weeks back and most of us were kept in the dark about it. There were no invitations or phone calls saying that they are getting engaged and to attend a celebration dinner or something like that. The weird thing is - there was no reason for her to hide her engagement.
When her grandma found out whom she's getting engaged to, her grandma was kinda disappointed with her for choosing an unsuitable person because he's not working yet and also there's his health problems. And because my cousin is "The Golden Child's" daughter, my grandma was so in a hurry to meet her "husband to be". This all happened when we went visiting a cousin's house during the Chinese New Year celebration. No one actually wanted to follow grandma to meet our cousin's husband because we felt that the poor fellow might not feel comfortable being visited by a throng of strangers. The guys sent her there and they got stranded there while waiting for our car to pick up grandma. It was while we were on the way to my cousin's in law's place that the ladies start to wag their tongue.
First of all, I heard from my uncle that he actually talked to my cousin in the kitchen before leaving for our hometown that he thinks she's still too young to get married. Then, my grandma and aunt spilled forth their thoughts by saying she could have chosen someone better than that guy because he has many ailments and also because he's not from a well-off family. To top it off, two cousins of mine were saying the same thing that she would regret marrying the guy because she's used to living in comfort.
The more I listen to them talking about my cousin, I got more and more agitated. It annoyed me so much - getting married because you love the guy/girl is not enough to placate the gossip mongers in town. It must be a perfect match financially at the same time. So they're just about to start a new life together. And life's not necessarily short. Everyone has a chance to build themselves up the social ladder given time and opportunity.
I hate these materialistic thinking that people from the old countryside has. Everything seems to be revolved around money. If someone marries for money to a guy who's let's say~~ more than 10 years older than the girl, she will be dubbed as a gold digger. Someone who wants to be rich instantly. I hated the fact that they have a certain expectation for their son-in-law. Do they really think that being rich brings happiness? Don't they realize that for everything that has it's ups, there's definitely an aspect where it lacked? Nothing's perfect...
I'm glad I chose not to get married. I choose to be single because there's no such thing as a perfect guy for me. Yes, I did have a mental picture of what kinda person I'm looking for but it's just a waste of my time if the person is not approved by "the counsel of wagging tongues". I'm not competing against my cousins on who can find the best looking and financially sufficient spouse. Even now, with all my cousins who have boyfriends and girlfriends - they're being judged and scrutinized by "the counsel" till they're feuding amongst themselves. POINTLESS!!!
